My husband doesn't blog. He's more of a phone, email, and texting kind of guy. He's on the road this week and sent me an email yesterday stating that "if he had a blog here is what my entry would be for Wednesday, December 2, 2009".

It stirred something wonderful in my soul.

"Today was a good day. I thought about this as I was flying at 35,000 ft over the southern part of the USA, the greatest country in the world.

As dusk turned into night, a full moon came up from the clouds on the right side of the plane and the sun was setting on the left. I am sitting comfortably in an upgraded first class seat (compliments of United Air Lines), drinking my favorite cocktail, Tangueray and Tonic, listening to my boys, Wayman, Jonathon, Kirk, Stevie and others on my most excellent Ipod which was one of those perfect gifts from my beautiful wife Janet.

My day was good and here is why:

My wife had a great day of building her business of which I am very happy and proud. My daughter was accepted into a university and I feel that I had a major impact on a large order for my business. For all of the above I am thankful but most of all, I think of how fortunate I am to have the family base that I have. For the first time in my life, I know I have a foundation I can count on. That is you Janet – I love you very much! I am blessed."

Darin JerdeAerospace/Industrial Business Leader - Sweeney

I'm thrilled that he feels this way because I know I do too. I'm proud of him and all that he does for our family, his work, our church and community. Darin has a good soul. I am blessed.

The "Dear John" Letter: Overcoming and Growing from a Rejection Letter, by Janet

Yesterday I received the business version of a "Dear John" letter from a company I submitted my resume to. The letter was to thank me for submitting my resume and to serve as notification that they had other candidates that better matched what they were looking for. I was not being considered.

A blow to the ego (and pocket book) but I knew I’d find a way to grow from this.

I went back to the job posting, because I save a copy of every job I apply for (I’m like that), and went over the qualifications being required. I then went to my resume and cover letter that I submitted to confirm that what I wrote, to this organization, was professional and suitable for the position (and yes, I checked for typos and other grammar issues to confirm that what I sent didn't make me look like a bumbling idiot).

I confirmed that my years of marketing experience, my skill sets and abilities matched the requirements the employer was seeking. If this organization was using software to whittle down the top applicants, every key word they put in their job posting was embedded into my resume and cover letter. There was no way I couldn’t have been at least tossed into the “potential pool” of candidates. I know I owned all of the qualifications they were seeking for the position.

I’m not bitter by the letter, just mystified why I couldn’t make the initial interview round. I wished the rejection letter wouldn’t have been so generic. I wished they could have given me a bit more insight as to why I couldn’t even get through the door for an interview, but I know legally, they can’t and don’t want to give specific details.

I’m left to sort it out on my own. Am I too old? Does my resume suck? Do I want too much money? Do they think I’m some has-been marketing woman who isn’t up-to-the-minute on the latest marketing technology available to drive sales and build relations? Well, if that is the case, then they are wrong on every point…well, accept my age, I can’t deny that I’m getting old, but I’m still a powerful force for any organization. I still have many (and I mean many, I’m a Beaudry for God’s sake) great marketing years in front of me.

If it was my resume, I will continue to fine tune it. I recently had three "hiring professionals” review my documents and presentation tools with the goal to help me make the strongest presentation of my capabilities as possible. I'm implementing their recommendations. I’m also adding additional technology to my search efforts to help me get noticed.

As for the "has-been" comment, I'm not. I've continued to focus my energy on learning and applying new technology, social and new media outlets, and other relevant tools designed to market to consumers and businesses into my skill sets. I'm determined to keep ahead of the marketing curve (I’m not about catching up, I'm about leading). And, finally I am staying sharp and ready for my next marketing leadership role.

I won’t refute that the letter was a disappointment to receive, but I have moved on. I really have no other choice, right? I’m going to continue to do things that will position me for greatness. I’m going to find the right company that will embrace hiring a marketing person like me. Receiving this letter doesn’t slow me down. It has, in fact, inspired me to do more so that I can get to where I’m destined to be in my professional career.

Be Happy, by Janet

Losing your job is tough. Looking for work is humbling. It doesn’t help that the economy is soft, companies are slow at hiring and that every day you read about more people joining you on the unemployment line. Somehow, in all of this you have to survive. You can start the survival process by being happy (okay, being happy might be better said than done but it can be done.)

I had a disappointing “job hunting” day yesterday and I spent time feeling down (aka, sorry for myself). It’s okay to do that. I believe you have the right to get down but you have to get yourself back up again (and quickly). To help me get back up, I focused on five things. I thought I’d share, in case you needed help too.

1. Get Walking. Take 30 minutes to get outside. Whether it is to walk, run, swim laps, or ride your bike. Get doing something. The boost of energy and endorphins will help you feel better and reduce your stress.

2. Take Action. If you don’t like where you are at right now, take steps to bring change. You have to take action to make things happen and you can't wait around for someone else to make it happen. For those seeking employment, your actions should be to renew your social network sites, update your resume and re-post it on the various job postings and search engines. Attend local networking sessions. Attend online webinars to improve skills in areas you feel are lacking. Taking action will help you feel better about your current situation and will get you one step closer to finding your next job.

3. Spend time with family and friends. Being with others can help you through trying times and can help you feel better. When times are tough we tend to isolate ourselves (I know, I’ve done it). To be happy, now is the time to be surrounded by family and friends. Each week set time to meet someone for coffee, a walk, or a movie. Invite people over for dinner. A casual meal, filled with comfort foods and a setting where you can relax, talk, laugh, and even brainstorm about your situation can reduce your stress and get you back on track.

4. Volunteer. It is important to find meaning in a time when things may be difficult and you might be feeling meaningless. There are hundreds of non-profit organizations in your community that are going through hard times too (like you) because people cannot give as us much as they used to. Your time and energy donated to a local group will be a blessing to enhance their strapped resources. There are hundreds of ways to help: coordinate a food, clothing, or school supply drive, give of your time at local animal shelters, give blood, or mentor a young child are a few random ideas. Just call a local non-profit that you believe in and asked them what they need (simple as that). Taking time each week to give back will be great for the community and really great for you.

5. Have fun. When you’re not happy it is easy to skip having fun. Find an enjoyable activity and do it. Go to the park, eat a picnic lunch, attend a free concert in the park, walk a farmer’s market, read a book, or enjoy a sunset (pick a combination or all the above).

Life is too short to not be happy.

Dawn of the Working, by Janet

Yesterday I had a meeting at 8:00 am. It was odd to be up, dressed, and driving in my car with "the working". It’s not that I’m not up and dressed by 8:00 am each morning (even though I’m unemployed I still like to get up early and pretend I have a job to go to) but it’s the driving part that had me mystified today. I forgot what morning rush hour traffic is like in Denver. I don’t miss it.

I looked at all the other drivers and couldn’t get over their expressions (or lack thereof). No, I didn’t expect gleeful smiles, waves, or drivers swaying happily to music in their front seat, but I didn’t expect to see nothing but sour faces, expressionless stares, and everyone looking so unhappy. I thought, for a moment, I was in a made-for-television-movie with zombies taking over Interstate 25. It made me laugh. I thought they should be showing more emotions than this. They are, for all that is pure, the "working". They are not one of the 14.3 million people having to figure out how to find a job in this lackluster economy. I wanted to roll down my window and shout out “Be happy, you’re off to work! You have a job! You can put food on your table! You have health insurance (okay, so maybe its costing you way too much each month...but you have it)! You have other people to talk to besides a cat!” (no offense Snuggles) But I didn’t.

I know working isn’t fun. I know, right now, there are many employees counting down the number of hours until the weekend starts so they can be out doing something else. One of my old bosses used to say “that’s why they call it work and not Hawaii.” She said it a lot (which was completely annoying) but I have to admit it was a perfect saying for yesterday's drive.

Maybe work should be more like Hawaii.

If you are reading this and you are working. Get it together. Get in there and work. Get things done. Focus on helping your company grow so that they’ll start hiring. Do your work with energy, humor, dedication and pass it on to someone else in the office.

"Four Months, No Sign of Work", by Janet

I was laid off from my job 4 months ago today. I can’t believe that it has been that long (honestly, it just seems like yesterday I was packing my belongings, signing final paperwork, and hugging fellow co-workers goodbye).

I remember my first full day of unemployment. I was at our church attending a meeting with other people who had lost their job (not as depressing as it sounds). I thought for sure I’d only be in this situation for a few weeks (tops). I remember hearing the leader of our group say “for every $10,000 you want to earn, you can expect to be unemployed for one month.” Really, so if I want to make $60,000 it will take me six months to find work? And, if I want to make more I can expect longer. I thought he was crazy. I willed myself to believe that my talents would be seen quickly in the business community and I’d be snatched up faster than you can post your resume on Monster.com. I'd crush his theory.

Well, I'm wrong and he's right. I’m now looking intently at four months and I continue to search for work. But all is not lost. While I’m searching I’m also doing a few things that I have always wanted to do (and secretly I’m enjoying myself). Please don’t get me wrong, I have the worries that come with unemployment (paying bills, saving for college for my two girls, and making ends meet), but now is my time to stretch my entrepreneur wings and take flight on new things that I’m truly passionate about and do so while time (unfortunately) is on my side.

So even though this anniversary comes quickly, I will celebrate the time and work towards finding the right company that would be thrilled to have my passion for marketing, new media, social networking, sales, and brand that will help them drive their business.

Take Charge | Pick Up the Phone, by Janet

I realized yesterday that in my blog, “I’ve discovered a black hole in the universe”, I might have sounded a bit “snotty”. In one part I wrote: “If physic departments around the world want to know where I found the many black holes, they exist where ever you have to click “submit” on a search engine or company website to send your resume. Once I’ve done my part, I have no idea where my resume goes after that.”

It was a bit selfish on my part. I realize I have to do more than just submit a resume. I have to dig deeper. I have to find the contact person and find a way to follow up. Yes, that means more work for those of us seeking employment. You have to pick up the phone. You have to “cold call”, in its purest form, the person in the hiring position and let them know you have submitted your resume (even if it means simply leaving a message). No, I'm not recommending that you hound them every day by calling and emailing, and no, don’t call if the job posting specifically says no phone calls. But you have to find a way to break through the comfort zone of simply submitting a resume on line, and a phone call is one way. You have to make human contact.

Finding a job takes diligence. It will not be found by submitting a resume and waiting around. You have to take charge. It’s my new mantra.

I’ve uncovered a Black Hole in our Universe, by Janet

Wikipedia notes a black hole as follows: “In general relativity, a black hole is a region of space in which the gravitational field is so powerful that nothing, including light, can escape its pull. The black hole has a one-way surface, called an event horizon, into which objects call fall, but out which nothing can come.”

I discovered one (actually hundreds, but I don’t want to brag) over the last few months. It’s called the “apply now” button when submitting a resume for a potential job. Since I was laid off from my job on March 27, 2009 I have been actively seeking employment. I’ve been sending my resume to companies whose job requirements match my talents and years of marketing and sales experience. I am only sending my resume to those companies where my skill sets match and I’m not randomly sending out my resume to fill a quota that is required to collect unemployment. I’m not going to waste mine or the company’s time.

If physic departments from around the world want to know where I found the many black holes, they exist where (and when) you have to click “submit” on a search engine or company website to send your resume. Once I’ve done my part, I have no idea where my resume goes after that. My speculation is that this one-way gravitation field is found within most company’s HR department (or hiring manager) universe.

I know companies are busy. Most are working with skeleton crews in efforts to survive in these tough economic times. I can appreciate the time, efforts, and resources it takes to communicate back to the hundreds of people submitting a resume for one job, but that is what technology is for. To date, I’ve only heard back (and I’m talking automated emails only – I certainly don't mean a phone call or a generic letter via snail mail) from less than 2% of the companies where I have submitted my resume (I’m keeping track). That’s a shame. With today’s technology a company can easily filter information and responses back to the potential employee through the world of automation. Even if it is a “thanks but no thanks”, at least there is closure. We move on and then we crawl back into our own "black hole".

I’m taking my “black hole” theory with me when I get back into the workforce (that is if anyone will respond to my resume). It’s been an alarming wake up call for me to be on this side of the hiring process. I am determined to be a better person (manager) when I’m on the other side of hiring and I will provide proper tools of communications in effort to give timely feedback to all candidates. This way they know their resume was received and what’s going on with the employment opportunity. Whether the feedback is good or bad, just hearing back gives those of us seeking work, a sense existence in the universe called unemployment.

I'm baaaaack, by Janet

It’s been some time since I have written on our blog. Sorry Jill. Thanks for picking up the slack while I took a “break” from writing. I was feeling like a hypocrite by writing on our blog about “how to stay positive when looking for work, when I was starting not to feel that way”. Looking for work had taken its toll on me. My pride (ego) was hurt because the companies and hiring managers I was sending my resume weren't biting. I thought I’d have my footing down on this process when really I was slipping down a flight of stairs (ouch). I needed a break.

So I took one.

I took a vacation. Ten days with my husband. We saw family, friends, and went back to the place where he proposed to me two years ago (love that).

I hung out with my stepdaughters. They are on summer break and I kept telling them “I had to work” when all they wanted me to do was go to our neighborhood pool. Hello, I’m unemployed, I don't have to work in the fashion I did almost 4 months ago. So I did my “work” in the morning while they were sleeping in (oh the joy of youth) and then when they were up we were out (guilt free).

I lost myself in books, lots of them. I talked to my mom and we discussed some of the classics (and books she particularly loved) that I should read. My list is about 60 (for now but it’s growing). One fun afternoon I went to used book stores (recycle where you can people) with Jill and found some of the books on my list. I challenged myself to read every day and I did (loving this challenge).

At the end of this so-called break, I started writing again. This time it's my book. I believe this is one of the reasons why I’m suppose to be unemployed and seeking work. My next job just may not be what I defined as "work" prior to March 27, 2009. This time I may just follow my passion and take this time to allow me to get my book, that has been in my head for years, finally getting on paper. I’m about 35% complete. I’ve been sharing it with Darin as I finish key parts, but will put it up to the real critics soon (Jill).

I’m sorry I’ve not been active on our blog. But I’m glad I took the break. I’m back and full of energy to continue the job search and whatever else comes my way.

I hope you are all well.

Scavenger Hunt with Jill

Today Jill and I are getting together for a “scavenger hunt” through a very large Goodwill store and very cool used book stores.

I need gloves (see previous posting) so that I can start making stuffed animals (serious, you have to read my earlier post “have a hobby” to not think I have finally gone over the unemployment edge). I want pre-existing acrylic gloves for this project, and for sentimental reasons, I will have to explain at a later date. But finding gloves anywhere in this town after April has become a bit of a challenge – so I’m hoping Goodwill might be the best resource, being that they are a treasure trove of great things.

After Goodwill we are heading over to south Broadway (near Green Hornet area) to walk the funky shops and wander through used book stores. I have a list of classic books I want to read and add to my library and I thought this would be very “green” of me to buy used.

It will be a fun day with Jill (always is). We plan to have some Fish & Chips and a beer at GB’s http://www.gbfishandchips.com/ (super fabulous place, check it out). Ron will be picking her later this afternoon, so if we get home early enough we will have wine (hello, we will be home early enough....I'll post that little "wine drinking on the deck" adventure on http://www.wineyjanet.blogspot.com/).

I’ll take a few snapshots and post them out on my Facebook for you all to see how much fun we are having this Friday (now don't you wish you were unemployed and hanging out with us!).

Peace

Happy Birthday Jill!

It was Jill’s 40th birthday yesterday. We had celebrated “her day” last weekend with good food, friends, and bit too much wine, but yesterday was her “official” day. It sounded as if she was having a good day (which I’m thankful) and enjoying herself. Turning 40 can be a “big deal”, but as a member of this group, I can speak with some authority, that you can completely enjoy your 40’s and I tried to share my thoughts with Jill over the past few months as her day approached.

Someone told Jill that it would be very depressing for her to turn 40 and be without a job. Who says? Where is the book that tells us that we have to have a job each year our birthday rolls around? What book says that we have to feel horrible when a milestone event in our life occurs and we are not in what others perceive as the “right” situation? I must have missed both of these books (I'm off to the library to find them).

Obviously this person is not in her 40’s, or if she is among our fabulous group of 40-somethings, then she doesn’t get it. I told Jill that turning 40, and not having a job, is okay (maybe not ideal, but life will still go on) and that she should enjoy this point in her life regardless. Life does not have guarantees that certain things happen at certain times – not everyone gets married for the first time in their 20’s, not every woman has children, and if you have never been laid off, there are no guarantees that you won't be at some point in your life. We are not given a clear road map and there are bumps and turns along the way that you can’t control. So Jill now has options. She can sit around and be miserable, sad about tuning 40 and without a job (which by the way….she is not alone in the 40 and jobless category) or she can look at turning 40 as an amazing opportunity to celebrate, do something different, set a new course in life, start her own business or keep slugging away looking for work, laugh, dance when everyone is looking (Jill’s a great dancer), and embrace her 40’s.

I’m betting that Jill will take the latter.

When handing out advice (regardless if it's good or bad) you need to think about what you are saying and how it impacts the person on the other end. God knows, I’m not saying you should soften your message before delivering it in efforts to not hurt feelings, but you should stop and make certain that this advice you are handing out isn't more for your situation (or fears) then for the person receiving your wisdom.

Jill's birthday has come and gone, she is 40 and she is without a job – now what can the friend say? Personally, as her friend (for the last 14 years), I wish Jill a great 40th year. I hope she finds a job (for the sake of others). But more importantly, I wish her happiness, love, a continued great relationship with her husband Ron, lots of dog kisses, and that she finds a great sense of satisfaction and fulfillment in her life – especially now that she is 40.

Happy Birthday Jill!

Favorite Quote, by Janet

Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Staying Motivated, by Janet

I’ve gained 8 pounds over the last year and I’m certain most of the weight packed on happened since I lost my job (now 2 months ago). Yikes, I need to get this in control. Nothing wrong with gaining weight (because it happens) but when you are gaining because you are doing nothing all day but sitting at the computer looking for work and grazing in the kitchen, there is something that needs to be addressed (for me it is a job and food).

Unemployment has its moments where it can suck every ounce of motivation out of every cell in your body. You can’t understand this unless you are living through unemployment (trust me). It’s overcoming these unmotivated moments and building from them that will change the situation.

Over the last few weeks my motivation has swayed a bit. Although I try to fight it, I’ve noticed that I’m challenged more often as the weeks of unemployment pass. I thought I’d have a job by now (everyone who's unemployed thinks this) and I realize now that it could be months before it does. This realization was a blow to my ego. With each passing week without the ability to interview, each network opportunity that fizzles down to nothing, and with each resume sent into the black hole called “apply now” and you hear nothing back, you have to find new strength.

It's funny to watch how motivation changes week after week. I started out (week one) thinking being laid off was good for me. It was the change I needed to find the right (better and more rewarding) job. Now (week eight) I've started having moments of panic, counting every penny, and then I started doing too many (wrong) things to find a job. I lost my focus and my motivation was living in a dish of ice cream. This week I made myself stop, regroup, look at my finances, reevaluate what was important and what career path that I really want to take, and I stepped up my daily exercise regime (which was screaming for help). I’ve meet with a good friend who is a “PR expert” and we are creating a new way to get the attention of people wanting to hire someone for marketing, sales, and/or the other talents I posses.

By taking action and regaining control I have felt a new wave of motivation. I realize now I will have to keep adjusting things to keep my motivation steady, but I'm committed to doing so. This I'm certain will help me find work and drop the “unemployment pounds” I’ve gained.

Happy Memorial Day Weekend! Don’t forget to thank those in the military and their families for fighting for our freedom.

Good Boss | Bad Boss, by Janet

We’ve all had a good boss. The boss that we still talk about because he or she was great at their job, understood what it took to motivate, inspire, reward, and push during tough times to build a team. And, we’ve all had a bad boss at one time in our career. The guy or gal we try to erase from our memories because they lacked leadership and made continuous bad decisions that in the end, harmed the company…but for some reason they still remain on some company’s payroll and I’m the one out looking for work (go figure).

I’ve been a “boss” most of my life and I believe the people who I have managed appreciated my leadership style (I guess if they didn’t, they’ll comment on this blog). I’m still a “boss”, but due to my unemployment status, I’m now the boss of one. At a recent staff meeting it was unanimously determined that I would take the role of a “good” boss. I have to be a good leader. I have to apply the key traits of my favorite mentors and incorporate them to this situation.

As my “boss” I’m dedicated to walking-the-walk and talking-the-talk to live a positive (and happy) life. This means I dedicate time to read and reflect on inspirational work; to find and connect with people (both working and not working); to spend quiet times with my husband (talking and listening about all things happening in our lives) and I must hug my beautiful stepdaughters (because I never thought I’d have children to share my life with). I work hard to keep myself (and my friends also seeking work) motivated. I allow myself to laugh, and in all honesty to cry. I listen to others and I’m present to everyone and anyone I come in contact with. I keep telling them (and in turn, me) that it’s all going to be okay (because it will be).

I refuse to bring forward the traits and emotional baggage of the “bad boss”. Instead I’ve embraced my unemployment destiny by using the same passion, humor, and energy that my favorite bosses (Chuck Pecoraro with Great American, Rebecca Sonniken and Carol Walden with the Hahn Company, and Tad McMurray – my very first boss at Tastee Freeze) did. These "good bosses" taught me that you must rise above disappointments, overcome challenges, fight for what is right, and you will come back better (and stronger) because of it.

Peace.

Find a Hobby, by Janet

I love a good “arts and craft” project (don’t roll your eyes). With time on my hands (thanks to being unemployed), having a hobby helps me feel productive (and in all honesty, useful).

If I'm not looking for work and/or out networking, I work on a project to keep my mind and hands busy. I’m in the middle of embroidering dish towels (very old school but its therapeutic), I started this blog with my dear friend Jill, and, my latest “hobby” is making stuff animals out of old gloves (the picture is an example of what I’m trying to accomplish…it’s not my work…I have to give credit to Dr. Paul Broadman).

The patterns come from Miyako Kanamori and her book “Happy Gloves” (also the author of Sock and Glove). I’ve decided to make these very adorable stuffed animals and when I have a large quantity (more than one) I’ll box them up and deliver them to a local children’s organization or hospital. I am working on the details of where they can go - details to follow.

If you would like to help me with this project you can make some of these very cute “friends” on your own and mail them to me, or you can just send me your old gloves. I'll do everything else. I’m specifically in need gloves that are made of acrylic or another material that is elastic. If you send me gloves you no longer wear (this would be ideal since you will not be getting them back) I will make a “friend” and I will embroider your name on the finished product.

If you can donate please add a comment and I’ll send you my mailing address (if you don’t already have it).

Thanks.

Good Health, by Janet

May is my month for my annual Doctor appointments (all the “girl” stuff). I schedule them in May in honor of my mom (Evelyn). She will be 76 years young in a few weeks. So having my annual appointments in May reminds me to celebrate another year with her and another year of good health (hopefully).

Today was my day, and as I’ve said, on Friday’s I will be doing other things (for me, my family, my friends, my church, or my community) besides hunt for work. I’m not sure this is how I wanted to spend my Friday, but I’m glad I did.

A highlight of my various appointments was that I had my mammogram at the new Invision Sally Jobe office. It’s a beautiful new office on Belleview just a mile east of I-25 (Greenwood Village, Co). Each step of the process during my appointment was handled professionally. From the check in, to getting my robe, to the beautiful changing and waiting rooms and the kind staff, it was a nice experience.

Make certain you have your mammogram every year (especially for those of us 40 and older) and if you can, I highly recommend that you go there – you’ll love it.

The lowlight was being told I’ve gained 8 pounds this past year. I blame that on being happily married.

Happy Friday, I’m out for a walk and to eat a rice cake.

Save as a Draft, by Jill

We all have been there, at least those of us willing to admit it. You know the times when someone - friend, co-worker, boss or relative - sends you an email that infuriates you. You’re so wound up that you can feel the anger rise in your face like you had just spent a day in the sun with no sunscreen. Feeling mad with an overwhelming need to express yourself, you write a response. You use ALL CAPS, boldface type and lots of #$!!. Then you hit the send button – a moment of “Ha! Take that!” Then a moment later, “Oh no, what have I done?” Unless you have Gmail, which has a new panic button that gives you three-five seconds to stop sending, you don’t get a take back.

If you are guilty of sending under the influence of anger, here’s a solution for the next time you are faced with this issue. I like to call this rule “save as a draft.” Yes I know, I did not coin this phrase but I have taken it and made it my own. Next time you are overcome with anger and start to type furiously pounding away at the keyboard, take a moment and do this - remove everyone’s name from to be sent lines; finish typing the email and then walk away from it. Go back and review it after counting to 10, waiting several minutes or whatever you need to bring down your blood pressure. Once you have reached a more Zen-like state and still agree with what you wrote, then send it. Then again, you may let the calmer state-of-mind prevail and choose to re-write it. If you are still unsure, keeping saving as a draft. You are likely to go through many versions of the email until you get it right or decide not to send it at all.

Before sending any email please keep this in mind – once an email is sent it is memorialized and cannot be erased or undone. Don’t let a brief moment of anger or weakness takeover and make you send something that you will be sorry for later. Take the high road when possible, you will be the better person for it.

TGIF (I hate the saying, but it works), by Janet

It’s another Friday. I hope you had a good week. Speaking on behalf of Jill, we did too. We had a few good laughs together, networked, blogged, and made connections.

Before I call it a day, I did work on seeking employment. But now I'm off to enjoy the rest of my day. Darin returned home from his latest travels late last night. He's at the office right now but later today we are going to put up a new fence at my home in NW Denver while my fabulous renters are in Kauai.

You may be asking yourself…"does the excitement ever end with us?" The short answer is “no”. Hopefully, I can talk Darin into going to one of our favorite eating establishments in the area after we complete the first part of a two part task. I have a hankering for My Brother’s Bar (amazing JCB – jalapeño and cream cheese burger), Brick House BBQ (yummy brisket), or Edgewater Inn (fabulous pizza). If you have not been to these places, go. You won’t regret.

Have a great day.

Standing By, Up, and In, by Janet

Being unemployed and having more time on your hands, allows you to think. There is a sense of solitude that comes with unemployment that only those going through it can, in all honesty, relate to the feelings of isolation and loneliness. I’m a workaholic and now in my 5th week of unemployment (can you believe it) and I have been feeling this way recently. I’m use to being busy and over the last few weeks my stepdaughters have been with their mom and my husband is traveling, so the house has been empty (well, I still have Snuggles the cat, but that conversation seems to be a bit one-sided and she sleeps too much).

I spent a significant time job hunting (because that is what you do when out of work) and much of it online. The other day I was at home, and on the computer, when an overwhelming sensation of personal-disconnect happened. You might call it a “panic attack” I’m calling it a “disconnection to others bout” (I don’t like the word “attack” and appreciate the word “bout”, because it sounds short lived and that you’ll be back to “normal” soon). I decided I have spent too much time alone, looking for work, living through the computer, over cleaning, and talking to the cat, so I decided I have to do something about it.

I picked up the phone and started calling people (sounds logical, doesn’t it). I asked them if they were free for coffee, to go for a walk, to see a movie, to have a drink, or to do something of their choice to help me fill my calendar. I called my business “network” to find upcoming meetings to attend or if they needed any “free” help to keep my mind sharp and my sanity in check. I know I have to find full-time work (which I’m doing) but I also know that I need human contact. My friends, family, and business acquaintances have stepped up. My calendar is filling up and the love, willingness, and availability of people I know has changed my outlook and attitude. I am seeing, first hand, the kindness of others in my time of need.

Yesterday, as I glanced through my online calendar, I felt good. I also came across a great video (on YouTube) that I became an instant fan of and I wanted to pass along. I could relate to the video. Its part of a music documentary (Playing for Change, Peace through Music) with musicians performing the song, “Stand by Me” (a Ben E. King classic). Each individual musician performed their rendition of the song all over the world and the director connected them together. I saw an immediate correlation in the film to my life. I’m not a lone singer on the street belting out a tune. No, I’m part of a bigger group of people and when in need, people do stand by you. They stand up for you and they stand in for you giving you their strength to overcome any obstacles.

Thank you and enjoy this clip.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Us-TVg40ExM

Going Up? Build a Smart Elevator Speech, by Janet

The other day I was in an elevator after a networking opportunity and I was heading down a few floors to my car that was parked in the garage. I don’t particularly like elevators (I’ll admit I’m a classic claustrophobic) but a ride on the elevator was an opportunity to be have a few solitary minutes with potential companies seeking people to hire. I’m not saying I was the right person for the specific jobs that they were trying to fill, but what I am saying is that I might be the right person to work for their company (they just don’t know it - yet).

I figured this was my opportunity to say something and get my foot in the door for future openings. I started with small talk in the hallway before the elevator arrived to get the conversation moving. We got in, the doors shut, my blood pressure went up slightly and one of the hiring managers asked me: “What are you looking to do?” I stumbled with a response (which is shocking, because for those who know me know that I can think on my feet and say something smart and targeted but today I was off my game). I had this trapped audience (maybe not a good word when talking about riding an elevator) and a prime opportunity to showcase who I am and I messed up. I did not have my personal, targeted elevator speech down to make a great impression.

Everyone needs an elevator speech.

An elevator speech is a 30 second speech that succinctly and memorably introduces you. It spotlights your uniqueness. If focuses on the benefits you provide and should be delivered in the time span of an elevator ride, making it short and sweet and to the point.

I did manage to say something, but I decided during my drive home that I need to work on this. When I got home I sat down and thought about my elevator speech and here is what I came up with:

Hello, my name is Janet Jerde. I help companies drive profits, deliver value for investors, grow brand, and retain and grow customers through smart, effective, and result driven advertising, Internet marketing and social networking, sales, and customer retention programs.

Peace.

Do Not Forget to Live, by Janet

As promised I’m taking today off to live a little and re-energize my soul (I need to check in with Jill to see if she is joining the “day off” plan and if so, what she is doing). Like you, I've been looking for work every day this week (networking, online searching, reviewing my resume, and following up to previous leads to get an interview) so my brain (and ego) deserve a break. If you don’t have any pressing matters, you should do the same!

I’m off to the health club to workout including some necessary sit-ups. Exercising is a good thing in life – regardless if you have a job or not - but for all of us seeking employment right now, adding the routine of daily exercise to our agenda is essential to maintaining good “mental” health. It is stressful looking for a job every day. You need to get outside and take a walk, run, attend a yoga class, get the bike out and take a spin around the neighborhood,or do something that gets you away from the computer, off the couch, or in my case, out of the refrigerator.

Once I’m done with my exercising, I’m off to do some personal errands (I will not bore you with the details of my ever so exciting life). Tonight it is an evening with Bonnie Brea pizza (yummy), fabulous wine, and a few laughs with my husband. He was in Dallas, Texas this week for work so catching up is in order.

Peace.

SWF, 47 and Never Been Kissed, by Jill

I bet you thought this was the beginning of a personal ad. Sorry kids, Janet and I are offering reading entertainment not a dating service. However this is the description of a woman of whom I had never heard, Susan Boyle. Actually no one had heard of her, with maybe the exception of her neighbors in the small town in England where she lives. Now, worldwide people know the woman who sang, “I Dreamed a Dream.”

Boyle was a contestant on “Britain’s Got Talent.” She stood up on stage before the world with fire, determination, courage and confidence. She said that wanted to be a professional singer and aspired to be as successful as Elaine Paige. Everyone baulked at her comment.

The hosts, judges, the studio audience and even the viewing audience had a pre-conceived notion of what they thought they were about to hear. People were laughing, rolling their eyes, and expressing disbelief in her ability to perform as if they were saying, “There is no way you can sing? Who do you think you are? Elaine Paige, please no way.”

Queue the music, Boyle hits her first note. The audience and judges alike gasped, brows raised, people cheered, they stood and clapped. She had changed a roomful of doubt into heartwarming inspiration. In a word, she was EXCEPTIONAL. Whether or not this genre of music happens to be in your ITunes library, there is no denying this lady can really sing. If you don't believe me, click here: Susan Boyle & Elaine Paige edit "I Dreamed a Dream"

The point to my story is this – inspiration can be found anywhere. Have confidence in yourself and don’t let others preconceived notions and judgments change how you act and feel. Keep an open mind and remain true to yourself and your dreams. Be exceptional.

Process for Finding Employment, by Janet

In an earlier blog I said stop, drop and re-think your process for finding employment. I’m taking my own recommendations (no lie) and I completed my strategy plan for work.

I wrote down the things I loved about my past jobs. I identified the projects, tasks, and responsibilities that gave me the greatest level of satisfaction. Everything boiled down to actions I took that drove positive revenue for my employers (duh, that seems obvious when writing this but there were times in my career when I have been caught in the "weeds" at work, due to limited staff or resources, and while the “weed tasks” were necessary to complete, your ability to focus on the big picture revenue actions can become tangled). Originally my list was long, so I drilled down the responsibilities to target key actions that drove company profits and, equally important, things I completely enjoyed.

I came up with: 1) the development and implementation of strategic marketing initiatives (analytics, design, program development and implementation, and processes for release and communications); 2) new product launch (brand development, market positioning, guidelines, training, measurement tools and sales analysis; 3) social network marketing (especially the Organic means of driving first-time visitors to a site and the tools to build long-term relations); and 4) media and consumer relationship marketing. I also made a list of companies I want to work for and why I want to work for them. I have 20 companies in the greater Denver area that made the list.

I merged these two lists and now I’m evaluating each company and how my talents and experience would benefit them (as I mentioned in my previous blog I’m determined to choose my path for employment. This means I have to stop sending out random resume emails as if they were ransom notes for employment).

I’m now completing my due diligence with the companies identified to see if the work culture is one that I would want to be a part of and if there are positions within the organization that match my talents. In tandem, I’m searching my social networks, talking to friends, family, church members, and other community network groups to see who people know and how I can get introduced. This will take a bit of time to uncover. If I can’t find the right contact within the organization from my discovery efforts, then I’m going to try another way to get myself in front of the right person at the right company.

Peace

Take a Day Off, by Janet

When you are unemployed and looking for work, take a day off. This might seem counter-productive but you deserve it. You need it. I just took two days off (that is why you did not see new blogs from me) and while "off" I decided I’m going to start taking every Friday off from my job search (okay, I’ve not told my husband or my co-blog writer about this change in my schedule… I’ll just let them read it).

I’m officially taking one weekday off, without guilt, and I’m going to do something else. Finding a job is a fulltime job (don’t be fooled) and you have to step away from it. Now you might be thinking “I can’t afford to do that. I need a job. I needed a job yesterday”. I can appreciate those statements (I say and think this often too), but your brain needs a rest. Your soul needs to be revitalized. You need to take a day and do something else. By giving yourself this time allows you to come back invigorated, eager, happy, and maybe (just maybe) with a new strategy or a new contact for finding work.

I took two days off because on Friday I needed a “Janet moment”. I felt compelled to do something completely mindless in efforts to grow my positive energy and spirit. On Saturday, my fabulous husband and I took a wine class. We love wine (hence the nickname Winey Janet). We had a blast learning about the components of wine and spending quality time together. Our day was filled with new and fascinating information about wines. Our Saturday wine escape led to conversations about everything BUT my job searching efforts (tends to be the dominate conversations these past few weeks). We admitted to each other that this was good for us both. I forget that my unemployment impacts him too, and for us both to step away from my job search and do something else was a break we both needed. So, my completely unprofessional advice to you is to take one day off each week. Find something else to do besides looking for work. Take a walk around a park, play games with your kids, read a book, nap, talk to your cat, go to the dollar movies (see a couple shows in one day and make it your own private film festival), write a letter, cook a great meal, or better yet, go volunteer. There are other people in our world that need your help and it’s nice to know you’re still needed.

I will take a day off each week, I promise. I will blog on my “day off” but not about seeking employment, but instead I’ll do something else with my day and write about it.

Peace

Positively Positive, by Jill

If you have ever heard of or have taken the “Strengthfinders” questionnaire then you know at least your top five strengths, if not your top 10 or potentially all 34. If you have no idea to what I am referring to, check out www.strengthfinders.com.

One of my key strengths is “positivity” (it is my fourth strength of many). At this point you might be saying, “And this helps me how, Jill?” Well I will tell you positivity has helped me through my various stages of unemployment. You see I have been a member of the RIF (reduction in force) movement three times in the past four years. Yes folks two of which were in 2008 (heavy sigh). My husband joined the ranks of the unemployed about a month ago (heavier sigh).

Every day we both see our situation as an opportunity, not an obstacle (smile). Keeping a positive attitude and humor has been my salvation and my way to get through it. Don’t misunderstand, there are days that I could stay in my pj’s all day (done that) and thought, “I don’t really need to get out of bed today” (said that). First, when you do happen to get out of bed, you may feel sorry for yourself and stew in your pity pot. Let me be the first to tell you that to have one of those days now and again is okay. However, I do emphasize only one of those days now and again.

While Janet and I do not claim to be experts, we do lean on each other to keep things positive. Following are a few things I have found helpful to keep my attitude upbeat.

Identify what inspires you. Write down a few things that inspire you or take you to your happy place. Write it in a journal, on a chalkboard, a dry erase board, or even paint it on your wall, no matter what is a person, a place, a book, a song, a pet or an object — something that helps break the cycle of sadness.

Call a friend that makes you laugh. (I have Janet and she has me). Stay away from the negative Nelly’s, the downer Debbie’s and the sad Sara’s. Trust me I can send myself into a downward spiral fast enough, I don’t need anyone’s help for that. A funny friend is sure-fire cure, as we all know laughter is the best medicine.

Limit the amount of time you watch the news daily. Don’t misunderstand it is critical to stay informed on life, local and world issues but it is essential for you to choose your attitude or your outlook yourself. Don’t be bogged down or freaked out by media phrases like — crisis, worst in history, bleak outlook, and more layoffs – you get my drift.

Practice a random act of kindness. Make someone you know (or don’t) smile. Give people compliments; pick something up when someone drops something near you; hold the door open for someone. You get the idea.

Take a moment and be grateful for something (or someone) in your life. Your friends, your home, your dog, your health, your ability to sing well in the shower, the fact that two friends have created a fantastic blog for you to read.....Practice this phrase. I am grateful for (fill in the blank). Focusing on being thankful will help refocus your energy to the positive.

Get outside. Five to 10 minutes of sun a day is all you need to get a good dose of Vitamin D – not to mention you feel better when the sun shines (Don’t forget the sunscreen).

My last tip (well at least for this entry) is to read the book, “Life is Good”. This book provides life hints for happiness and positivity. It's your daily reminder to stay positive. Remember, a smile is contagious. Optimism breeds optimism. It takes fewer muscles to smile then frown. May the sun shine on you and your day be filled with laughter and joy!

Hugs

Mapping Your Employment Process, by Janet

Finding a job in today’s economy is tough. There are lots of us (me, Jill and now Jill’s husband Ron) out there looking for work and for those companies hiring it’s an employer’s market (good for them). But if you’re on the search for a new career, don’t just run to the nearest computer to look for job postings online and then immediately start sending out hundreds of resumes to make yourself feel better (hello, Jill and I have done that). Instead stop, drop into your favorite chair, and re-think about what you really want to do with your next career move.

Regardless if you are 20, 40, or 60 years old seeking work, you need to identify what you love to do. You need to look at past jobs and identify what was the most satisfying part about them (if it was the paycheck…well, think a little harder). You need to write down every company you have ever wanted to work for and start merging this information together so that you have a focused and purpose driven effort in place to restart looking for work.

Many of you, like us, don’t have the time or money to be out of work for months. You have a mortgage to pay, college tuition to save for, a car payment due in less than 30 days, or one of a hundred other personal reasons why you needed a job yesterday. I get it. But to run around without a clear goal of what you want to do and where you want to work will only prolong your search and your ability to build accurate strategies and implement smart tactics that will help you achieve your goal of landing a new job.

Jill and I are not experts at finding jobs (hello, we’re unemployed too, remember) but we met for a brainstorming session and decided that we are going to be more strategic in our search. Today I stopped, sat down in my favorite chair (with a glass of wine), and made myself think about what I loved in my past jobs and I made a list of the organizations I believe my talents would most benefit. My next step will be to work on my strategies and tactics to get myself noticed.

Peace

The Recession Roller Coaster, by Janet

The recession just got a little personal. I was laid off recently (4 weeks and counting). My friend Jill has been out of work since December (I took that personally too). I didn’t understand what she meant by the "emotional roller coaster" that comes along with being released from your job when I called her to tell her about my situation, but after 4 weeks of not going into the office I believe the carnival has arrived and I have my e-ticket in hand. It is an emotional time to not be working but I must allow myself to enjoy the ride.

I think the “roller coaster effect" for me comes from (or who I kindly place blame on) my workaholic parents that raised me and my siblings to work. I like working. I need to work. I was told to work. I was picking beans in a bean field outside of Springfield, Oregon before I was 7 years old (Hello, what was my mother thinking! She used to load me, my brother and sisters into her 1963 Volkswagen at 5 am and we would drive to the fields and work). I’ve worked all my life, so to have this “temporary coffee break” seems unusual, a bit scary, but it's also thrilling.

For the first time in my life I’m taking a moment to figure out the next step. I’m giving myself the personal time to network, meet with friends, and become a better family, church, and community member. Yes, it is scary. There are ups, downs, times when I have felt slightly ill and times that I have found it to be very exhilarating. I'm completely okay with the idea that the search for my next career opportunity may feel like a ride on a roller coaster but I'm determined to sit in the front car, eyes wide open and I’m not holding on. If you are in the same situation, let’s sit by each other on the next ride and together we'll make it interesting!

Peace.